Polo 是我十幾年前的同學, 我們不但一直都是好朋友, 這兩年更一起工作. 今年初 (我想最大原因是為了我) 他也到了北京 office 上班.

由於感情因素, 我剛去北京的時候心情狀況非常糟, 我十分感謝有這個朋友, 有他陪我度過接下來的的幾個月, 直到我遇到現在的老婆.

大約四五個月前, 有段時間他的野蠻女友, 也不知道是真的還是假的, 總之跟他鬧分手, 這是我當時寫給他但一直沒寄的 email.

Man, I love you.

從你們開始交往到現在, 好幾次, 我問 `你愛他嗎?’. 回答總是 `還好’, 典型的男人回應. That fooled me for quite a while, but seeing you in action all these times, 讓我摸不清你是真的不懂自己的心情還是需要在我面前維持男人的 so-called toughness？

也許是你成熟了, 也許是這次女朋友的年紀特別小. Anyhow, 你對這小女生的呵護是我們這些老友從未見過 , 一句 `還好’ 不足以讓我們對你的努力付出視若無睹.

這天早上, 在你讀他剛寄到的信時, 我見到了你強忍不住的啜泣. 說什麼男人的眼淚如何珍貴, 多少過於矯情. 只是這十幾年來, 我真的不記得你曾在我面前落淚. It may not be true love, but I can say this with confidence － you do love her.

More than a few times, you came to me for advise. I do appreciate your faith in me, but I am pretty screwed-up in my previous relationships, I am so scared that I could screw you up, too.

Oh yes, 這小女生的刁鑽任性, we’ve witnessed it. Many of us think she doesn’t deserve you. Well, I have to say I feel the same. But dude, this matter couldn’t be more subjective, my take is irrelevant. I want you to be happy, whether your friends approve the girl or not is insignificant, me included.

The thing that worries me is that it may be unrealistic hoping she would grow up, you might not be able to put up with her for long.

It’s ok to have a love one, having a fetter isn’t always a bad thing. Frankly, I envy you. If you are sure about your feelings, go buy her a nice ring or something and go to her, do whatever it takes. As always, you can count on my firmest support.

Relationship is one fragile thing that’s damn difficult to patch. Whatever you do, it may or may not work things out. If you’ve done all you could but still failed, when you look back some time from now, I want you to have no regret.